Pathways to Leadership in Architecture: A Conversation for Women, by Women

There’s no single route to leadership in architecture—and that’s what makes it so powerful.

Recently, I had the honor of moderating Pathways to Leadership Through AIA: Next to Lead in the DMV, a virtual conversation hosted by AIA Potomac Valley. What unfolded was one of the most enriching, affirming discussions I’ve had the privilege of facilitating.

Three extraordinary women—Anna Barbour, Melissa Daniel, and Saakshi Terway—joined me to reflect on their personal leadership journeys, shaped by years of community-building, advocacy, and resilience. Though each of them represents a different AIA chapter in the Washington, DC metro area (Northern Virginia, Potomac Valley, and DC), their stories carried lessons for anyone in design: emerging professionals, long-time practitioners, and frankly, anyone looking to make architecture more inclusive and alive.

Leadership Isn’t a Title—It’s a Pattern of Action

We opened the conversation with a deceptively simple question: Why does leadership matter?

Melissa, a powerhouse of strategic execution and the founder of the Architecture is Political podcast, spoke first—her answer? Leadership is power. But not in a villainous, Dr. Evil way (as she joked)—in a personal agency kind of way. It’s the difference between waiting for permission and stepping into purpose.

“Leadership is power. It’s empowerment. It’s taking control of your career, your voice, and how you shape the field.” — Melissa Daniel

Anna, who describes herself as more introverted, reminded us that leadership also looks like listening deeply, supporting your team, and showing up with empathy. Her path to leadership has been shaped by a love of learning and a commitment to mentoring the next generation. One of my favorite moments came when she simply said:

“If you got up today and put clothes on, you’re a leader. You’ve made decisions that have projected you to be where you are now.” — Anna Barbour

Saakshi added a global perspective to the conversation, having transitioned from practicing architecture in India to building her career in the U.S. She described how AIA gave her a sense of belonging—a place where she could ask questions, find support, and discover unexpected opportunities.

“Leadership is about helping your team reach their full potential. It’s not just about me—it’s about what I can do for others.” —Saakshi Terway

Starting Small, Staying Passionate

What struck me most about our conversation was how each woman began with a simple “yes.” A committee meeting. A volunteer opportunity. A question no one else seemed to be asking.

Each of them emphasized the importance of showing up with curiosity—and then following that thread with intention. Whether that meant creating new programming, co-chairing national summits, or mentoring younger designers, their leadership emerged not from ego, but from engagement.

Melissa put it best:

“Don’t just participate. Create something you wish existed.” — Melissa Daniel

The Architecture of Support

Another theme that resonated? The critical role of community. None of us builds alone.

These women spoke about the relationships that sustained them—mentors, peers, cheerleaders, collaborators. And they didn’t sugarcoat the challenges. Many of us know what it’s like to navigate burnout, imposter syndrome, or workplaces that don’t fully value our contributions.

But this conversation left me hopeful. The AIA—especially in the DMV—is evolving. More women. More BIPOC leaders. More open doors.

And as Anna said so beautifully near the end of our time together:

“Start small. Find something you’re passionate about. And make sure there’s an exit strategy.” — Anna Barbour

Final Thoughts

Moderating this panel reminded me why I joined the AIA in the first place—and why I stay. It’s not just about the CEUs or the conferences. It’s about creating the kind of profession I want to practice in—and helping others do the same.

📺 Watch the full webinar.💬

Reach out to me if something in the conversation sparked your curiosity—I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Written by Deborah Buelow, AIA

Deborah is the founder of Cedar Architecture, a boutique regenerative design firm leading the transition to a built environment that gives back more than it takes. Based in Alexandria, Virginia, Cedar crafts beautiful, high-performing spaces that seamlessly reconnect people with nature. With a holistic approach grounded in eight key design metrics—air, water, light, resilience, thermal comfort, sound, materials, and mind—Deborah and her team are revolutionizing residential architecture in the Washington, D.C. metro area. A past president of AIA Potomac Valley and a passionate advocate for women in architecture, Deborah brings curiosity, compassion, and systems thinking to every conversation about design and leadership.